Self Improvement (Motivating a Spouse)

This year has been filled with economic turmoil and each of us can name a neighbor, friend, or family member who have experienced a company layoff, cutback, or merger and we have a tendency to know what to say to the person. For example, "I'll look out at my company", or "Keep me posted on your job search". However, we tend to experience greater shock if the layoff/job problem involves our spouse.

A spouse should be motivated and given the same positive responses. Also, since his/her job search has a direct physical/emotional/financial connection to you it may take time to accept what he/she has experienced. Here are a few ideas:

1) Hold a meeting with your spouse regularly to discuss his/her concerns and/or fears concerning a job search.
2) Provide physical support such as offering to do a disliked household chore or enjoy a low-cost movie matinee to remind both of you that you still have each other.
3) Offer to take the children for a few extra hours weekly so that your spouse can enjoy his/her favorite hobby/sport.

By keeping the househould positive and allowing your spouse time to review his/her life, you are providing the best of yourself.